Introduction

Feeling flat, wired, exhausted, heavier, weepier, foggier, or like your body has turned on you, yet your GP says you’re “fine”? That disconnect is one of the most common perimenopause stories we hear, and it’s exactly why this conversation matters. We talk about the invisible chasm where women fall through the cracks when perimenopause is treated like menopause, and why the same protocols can create very different results depending on what your hormones are actually doing.

We walk through a clear clinical framework for perimenopause support: a hierarchy of healing that starts with gut repair, moves into hormone rebalancing, then targets metabolic reset. You’ll hear why testing and timing matter, how symptoms can persist or worsen when the wrong hormone is prescribed, and why progesterone is often the overlooked “critical hormone” in perimenopause. We also make space for nuance: HRT can be life-changing for some women, but it isn’t the only toolbox, and it works best when it matches your unique biochemistry.

From there, we zoom out to the seven pillars of vitality: how you eat, sleep, move, think, connect, test, and prescribe. The aim is practical and hopeful: build habits that become second nature so you’re not constantly managing your health, and move through the stormy season of perimenopause into the calm of menopause with confidence and energy. We also point you to the extra resources, including a recipe book and healing journal, intermittent fasting guidelines, and support for navigating eating out.

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Transcript

Why Perimenopause Should Empower

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Introduction. For every woman, I believe perimenopause should be a time of empowerment and understanding, not of struggle. Yet every day, women like Lorraine walk into my clinic feeling as if their bodies have somehow turned against them. They've been told by their GP that they're fine, their blood tests are normal, or there's nothing wrong with them, but they still feel miserable and broken, intuitively knowing that something isn't right in their bodies. These women come to me wanting the answers they haven't been given. They want the diagnosis that may have been missed. They want to feel better. They just want to feel like themselves again. This is my greatest wish for every patient and for you. For nearly three decades I've dedicated my life to providing women a path to resolve their perimenopausal symptoms and heal related chronic health issues they may suffer by offering them a solution they so desperately seek.

The Three-Step Hierarchy Of Healing

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My hierarchy of healing. It's a three-part process that restores their foundational health by first repairing their gut, then rebalancing their hormones, and finally resetting their metabolism. Once these systems are back online and in alignment, they're able to transition beautifully from the stormy season of perimenopause into the peace of menopause. By using the right process and protocols in the right order and in a specific timeline, it is possible to navigate perimenopause gracefully. As a clinician, my life's work and passion is to help women ages 35 to 55 navigate what can feel like the chaos of perimenopause with all its crazy symptoms. So each woman can transition successfully to the calm of menopause and become the vibrant, energetic version of herself, who ages gracefully and lives life to the fullest. The

When Women Fall Through The Cracks

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woman who falls through the cracks. An invisible and often unknown chasm exists between perimenopause and menopause, which separates these two distinct life phases. But in the dominant and often very loud medical narrative, the two states are frequently still lumped together and treated with the same protocols. When the truth is, perimenopause is not yet menopause. They are two different states that require very different treatment. If this difference between perimenopause and menopause is missed or ignored, a woman can fall through the cracks of the current orthodox medical model and not receive the proper treatment her body requires. And in some cases, she may receive inadequate care that can cause chronic health issues and suffering that could be completely avoided. Perimenopause being so often misdiagnosed is the reason why I'm writing this book. I don't want another woman to fall through the cracks of the current medical model, nor one more woman to risk inadequate care or suffer unnecessarily. I believe every woman needs to be educated on what differentiates perimenopause from menopause, so that when she sees her GP, she knows that in each state her hormones are doing very different things and must be treated accordingly. For example, if your doctor misses this memo and you are a perimenopausal woman who actually has higher estrogen levels, but treats you as if you're a menopausal and prescribes more estrogen when it isn't necessary, the consequences can be severe. I know this all too well because I was once this woman. I fell through the cracks and suffered chronic health issues for years, including obesity, polycystic ovarian syndrome, irregular periods, and severe fatigue, until I created the hierarchy of healing. I've written this book to share my unique treatment process and protocols with you. I wish for you and every woman to be armed with the knowledge to ask your medical practitioner the right questions. The questions that will best serve your body and allow you to take the wheel in your healing journey. In later chapters, I will share real-time patient health journeys to witness what can happen when the difference between perimenopause and menopause is ignored or missed entirely, and how these same women's lives change with the proper treatment protocol.

Beyond One Size Fits All Care

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My mission. My mission and why this book is so extraordinarily important to me is to give voice to a different narrative, where women, just like you, have access to the knowledge that there is more than one path to healing, to restoring and reclaiming your vitality during perimenopause. It doesn't have to be a one size fits all solution as the orthodox narrative would have you believe. Perimenopause is a natural biochemical occurrence in your body that is a second puberty for every woman. However, it's a second puberty that nobody tells you about, and the one you don't see coming. Even though it may not feel this way right now, perimenopause is temporary. When you have the right tools and treatment in place, peace can be restored to your body as you wait for your transition to the calm of menopause. This book exists to provide a solution for every woman for whom the orthodox medical model doesn't work. The orthodox medical model works well for the lucky women who are predominantly estrogen deficient in late perimenopause, and for whom a blanket prescription of estrogen with some progesterone to protect their uterus, breasts, bones, and brain successfully effectively rebalances their hormones. For many women, this is not the case. Their bodies may be more sensitive, meaning something else might be going on beneath their symptoms. Which is why a woman will hand me what seems like the perfect HRT hormone replacement therapy prescription, but her mood swings are getting more intense, her bleeding is heavier, and each migraine is worse than the one before. Plus, her gastrointestinal tract is a mess. More often than not, it's because improper testing was done and the wrong hormone, usually estrogen, was prescribed, leaving the critical hormone of perimenopause, progesterone, ignored. The results? Her perimenopausal symptoms not only persist but can worsen. This book is written for the woman who needs someone to dig a bit deeper and test for what is really happening in her body at a cellular level in her unique biochemistry. This book exists to allow me to be the boots on the ground so every woman has access to a solution to restore her vitality. Although I love research, I'm not a researcher. I'm a clinician who's been treating women just like you at the Holland Clinic for over 26 years. As you read on, I will reference research from brilliant researchers and clinicians I deeply respect, whose work I'm aligned with. I have also provided a comprehensive medical glossary should you want a deeper exploration of some of the science I will discuss. But the primary role I want to play is to be the clinician who takes the science and research and matches it to a patient's unique needs. I want to be the boots on the ground for every woman who feels unsettled in her body, who is bleeding excessively, who hasn't seen a good night's sleep in forever, and who's experiencing weight gain in places she never has before. The woman who feels frustrated and powerless because nothing she's tried has worked, and no doctor can offer her an explanation or an answer as to why. I want to bring that woman a solution to reclaim her vibrancy through the hierarchy of healing, which I will share in part two. This book exists to give women multiple toolboxes to heal. When it comes to treating perimenopause, I believe no one single solution exists. But so many women are told by their doctor that this one treatment, like HRT, is their only option. Yes, this may be true for that doctor according to their healing toolbox. I want women to know there are alternative toolboxes available to heal. There are many pathways to healing, as well as access to multiple toolboxes using different lenses of medicines for each woman's needs to heal completely. But it also requires a doctor who's invested in you and will take an individualized precision approach to your health and well-being. That is what the hierarchy of healing offers you, another toolbox. That said, I also believe that every toolbox has its role. In my eyes, a woman is best served when she has access to multiple healing modalities, evidence-based Western medicine, traditional systems such as Chinese medicine and integrative or functional medicine approaches. Because each offers something different. Rather than rejecting practices that have supported woman's health for thousands of years, we can draw on the strengths of each system and use them together in a way that truly honours a woman's whole body. As you will see, my training and approach reflect this belief. This book exists to tell you that perimenopause isn't an aging problem, it's a biochemistry problem. This book is meant to assure you that the issues you are suffering from are quite natural, and there's not a single thing wrong with you. You may feel like you're broken in some way, but I promise you you're not. You're just in perimenopause. As we age, natural changes in our biochemistry and the three phases of my framework are designed to teach you how to, in a certain timeline, work with your biochemistry rather than against it. We will look closely at this complex set of systems in your body and explain from a scientific perspective what actually happens in your body during perimenopause and how it's possible to implement a solution that will return peace to your body and to your life. Those are the reasons I chose to write this book.

Seven Pillars To Restore Vitality

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But here is my vision for you, the end point I want you to reach. My vision for you. Beautiful, I want you to become such an expert in your own body that you intuitively know exactly what you need to feel vibrant and healthy. Through the hierarchy of healing, repair, rebalance, and reclaim, and the vitality protocol, you'll master the seven pillars of vitality that transform your health and your life. The seven pillars of vitality are the way you eat, sleep, move, think, connect, test, and prescribe. The Holland Clinic Protocol brings together seven essential pillars that work synergistically to restore your vitality. These aren't isolated actions you tick off a list. They're interconnected elements that when practiced consistently become second nature. This is what I call unconscious competence. When eating well, sleeping deeply, moving joyfully, thinking clearly, testing regularly, prescribing wisely, and connecting meaningfully are no longer things you have to force yourself to do, but simply the way you live. When these seven pillars become automatic, you free up mental energy to actually enjoy your life, rather than constantly managing your health. This is the foundation upon which we build the hierarchy of healing. To eat, knowing which foods nourish your unique biochemistry and help bring your gut back online so you can rebalance your hormones and never need a restrictive diet again. To sleep deeply, the kind of sleep that is restorative, so you wake refreshed naturally. To move in ways that energize rather than exhaust you, and to discover movement that brings you joy. To think clearly and with focus, so you can better process stress and trauma responses, and develop an understanding of the mind-body connection in healing. To test using the foundational blood panels to identify what may lie beneath the symptoms and the root causes of other chronic issues. To prescribe, meaning to have the ability to build your own dispensary of clinical grade therapeutic medicines based on botanicals and nutraceuticals to support your healing. And finally, to connect, to prioritize and choose relationships that serve and nourish your overall well-being. Master these seven areas in ways you love that nourish your mind, your body, your soul. My life's passion is to help women replace the turmoil they may feel in perimenopause with the peace of a nourished body through implementing the three phases of the hierarchy of healing repair, rebalance, and reclaim. I want this same thing for you.

How The Book Guides You

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I've structured the book in the following way. Part one will look at the critical differences between perimenopause and menopause and the research behind how and why each life phase should be treated differently. You will take a few assessments to determine exactly where you fall in perimenopause and identify the symptoms you may face. We will also discuss the goddess progesterone and why in perimenopause she matters more than estrogen. In part two, I will walk you through the three pillars of the hierarchy of healing. Repair, rebalance, and reclaim. I'll share my protocols to mitigate your symptoms, rediscover your peace, and support your biochemistry. You will also meet women just like you and learn about their personal healing journeys and the solution they found to heal their unique biochemistry. Throughout the book, you'll find pull-out boxes that provide a more detailed definition of the medical and scientific terms I use. They are there for your information, should you want a deeper understanding. Then, at the close of each chapter is a short section called The Science Behind This Chapter. These boxes are there to reassure you that what you've just read isn't only my opinion or experience. It is backed by published research. You don't need to read them to follow the story or the guidance, but they are here for you if you want to see the evidence behind the ideas. You will also find tools, recipes, and certain assessments. By the time you finish reading, you will have already taken steps to heal and reclaim the vibrant woman you know is inside you. In writing this book, I wanted to provide a companion. This is the Perimenopause Recipe Book and Healing Journal, with many of the tools, assessments, and journal entries all in one place. So while you listen, you have something in your hands to put pen to paper as you take back control of your health. To further explore the journey you're about to embark on as you better understand yourself, your health and your biochemistry. The journal also includes my Ideal Foods recipe book, full of savory and sweet delicious meals and treats that will support your gut health. You can access it in the resource section at the back of this audiobook. And as a thank you for purchasing the audiobook, I added a free bonus, my powercupper recipe, the most delicious way to start your morning. If you're intermittent fasting, it prolongs your fast, keeping you satiated and content. Beautiful, if you're between 35 and 55 years old, amidst the what the hell phase of life, and you have the desire to be vibrant throughout perimenopause, as you successfully transition into the peace of menopause, then you're in the right place. As you listen, keep top of mind that it isn't you. Perimenopause is a natural shift in your biochemistry and it can be remedied. My ultimate goal for you is to achieve what I call unconscious competence, meaning you become so attuned to your body and what it needs that you automatically know your gut is healed and functioning optimally. Your hormones are balanced and no longer wreaking havoc. Your metabolism is flexible and responsive. Your energy is stable throughout your cycle. Your confidence is unshakable because you understand your body completely. With your perimenopausal symptoms mitigated or resolved, you'll never again feel disconnected from your body or confused about what it needs. Instead, you will feel connected to your body and its wisdom in every moment of every day for the rest of your life. This level of transformation is not only possible, it's what every woman deserves. Through over 26 years of clinical practice, I've seen thousands of women reclaim their vitality using the hierarchy of healing. As you listen, know that you are not broken, you are not crazy, you are not just getting older. Your body wants to heal and wants to be healthy and feel amazing. The tools are here. The pathway is clear. Are you ready to begin? So you can embrace this new chapter with confidence, peace, and joy. Warmly, Dr. Kirsty Holland. To help

Resources Bonuses And Next Steps

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you get the most out of this audiobook and get the results you desire, I have extensive resources and materials in the resource section. In addition to your free audiobook bonus, my power couple recipes, and access to This is the Perimenopause Recipe Book and Healing Journal, which includes my Ideal Foods recipe book, you will find my intermittent fasting guidelines and a protocol on how to navigate eating out. And these are just a few you will find, so don't miss out.